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Self-Forgiveness and the Real Second Chance
Some years ago, a friend of mine caused himself serious harm, and beyond the shock and grief I felt, I noticed my mind doing a strange thing. It kept running a mental movie of me rushing to the scene just in time to stop him.
Elisabeth Sperling · 8 June 2021 · 3 min read
My Partner Doesn’t Make Me Happy. He Makes Me Grow
As I write this week’s blog, my partner is on a plane from Barcelona to London. One way ticket. He’s moving in with me. I haven’t lived with a boyfriend for almost nine years, and someone has now left his friends, his family, his job, and his country to come and live with me.
Davide Pagnotta · 25 May 2021 · 4 min read
That Annoying Person in Our Life
We all have someone in our life who irritates us. We may try coming to terms with them, helping them change, expressing our uneasiness… but nothing seems to work; they’re still that annoying person in our life.
Elisabeth Sperling · 11 May 2021 · 3 min read
Inside or Outside? The Wise Humanity Blog on Earth’s Day
It was Earth Day last week and, while I was preparing this blog post, I was thinking, “OK, what is the most Wise Humanity way to encourage respect and promote love for the planet?”
Davide Pagnotta · 28 April 2021 · 2 min read
You’re Not Finished Growing
Imagine buying a strawberry ice cream cone for a beloved child in your life, a three-year-old. Imagine the grin on her face as she receives it and gives it one big lick.
Elisabeth Sperling · 13 April 2021 · 2 min read
You Are not Defective. Our Model of Romance is.
Have you ever felt that nobody will ever love you again? That you’re incapable of keeping a lover? That you’re not worthy of love and a happy relationship?
Davide Pagnotta · 31 March 2021 · 4 min read
Become Fascinated by Your Reactions
Years ago, one of my students was having frequent arguments with his wife. The conflicts would start over something trivial, like dirty socks left on the floor, but quickly escalate into accusations, shouts, threats of divorce, and even calls to the police.
Elisabeth Sperling · 23 March 2021 · 3 min read
Outgrowing Ambiguity
The tools we normally use to deal with ambiguity don’t really solve the uncertainty we find ourselves in; they mainly help us navigate it. But we can use a more radical approach and outgrow ambiguities altogether.
Davide Pagnotta · 16 March 2021 · 5 min read
You Are How You Eat
They say that the way a person does one thing is the way they do everything, and I can attest that if I bring peace and attention to one thing every day, that sense of peace expands into the rest of my day. I might as...
Elisabeth Sperling · 9 March 2021 · 5 min read
A New Perspective on Goal Setting: Put the New You into the Equation
It’s popular advice that, whenever we want to achieve a goal, we should visualise our objective, the destination, and then work out the journey to get there, step by step, backwards.
Davide Pagnotta · 2 March 2021 · 5 min read
How to Relate to the Voice in Your Head
If you could get a complete printout of all the thoughts that go through your mind in one day, every single thought, what would it look like? What do you think you would find out about yourself?
Elisabeth Sperling · 23 February 2021 · 7 min read
Empower Your Values, Free Yourself from the Circumstances
At one of our courses, we recently talked about how we can use our values to guide our choices in every situation.
Davide Pagnotta · 16 February 2021 · 4 min read